001. Why RemindHers?
001. Why RemindHers?
Hello, and welcome to the first episode of this is your remindher.
Each week, I hope to share sentiments that help lead you back to self-trust.
And the very first example of that is in this intro. I had already recorded this first episode, but... It didn’t sound like me. It was too scripted. It felt too rigid and perfect, and if there’s anything that I’m running from vehemently, it’s perfection. That bit wasn’t fear, it was knowing. Not doing or moving forward, because you know something isn’t quite right. So what you’re getting today is me re-recording from bed, and I promise it’s not just because I love my bed, but it’s where the best acoustics are for recording.
There are people that can attest to the fact that I’ve wanted to bring out a podcast for the best part of about eight months. It’s an idea that has come and gone, and ebbed and flowed… and while I know there are some who probably roll their eyes every time I mention it and nothing comes, thinking ‘JUST GET ON WITH IT ALREADY,’ but we can’t help what each of our big things are. The things that just feel that bit too stretchy for us. When it’s not about the thing, but the thoughts.
So I knew I wanted to make this podcast. I know the values and touchpoints I want to speak to, but what to say? What to say? Well, that’s where the first RemindHer comes in: start where you are and start with what you have.
It’s always the simple reminders that are the best. And that’s another thing: I don’t promise new revolutionary ideas, because I don’t think that’s what’s needed to help us do the things we want to do. It’s frequent repetition and reinforcement of the things we already know. Through words, but also those lessons in action an example being, this podcast that you’re listening to right now.
So in terms of starting where you are and with what you have, what I have is a back catalog of letters from my email letter, The Remindher. This next bit is from the very first letter that I sent almost a year ago in July 2020. Another thing that I felt in my bones that I wanted to do, and eventually, got there with. So without further ado...
Let’s start from the beginning then. Why RemindHers?
They say it takes thirty days to make a habit. With diligence, frequency and consistency required in spades.
If it takes thirty days to build a habit then, what could twenty, thirty or forty years of being habitually talked down to have done to us? Accepting and following the rules set out for us by our socio-economic and cultural forbearers? We’re up against decades of falsehoods that have become so familiar, they are our truths. Unhelpful, fear-driven modes of being, getting in the way of the things we want to do, and the things we really know to be true.
But though covered up under layers of BS, we never really forget that which is true for us. Truth has sat there, intrinsically and quietly within us all along.
But to get to it, to excavate it, we need frequent reminders with the same diligence, frequency and consistency that give that intrinsic thing within us a mouthpiece to talk back to the learned inner monologue that makes us doubt, put off, shy away. The voice that critiques, surrounds us with shoulds, and keeps us small. The now instinctive voice that left uninhibited, can run rampant around our minds.
I write about living with self-doubt, but learning to be led by self-trust. I have learnt though, that if we are to make this shift, there must also be an increase in our autonomy, the priority we afford ourselves, and a change in the way we talk to and work with ourselves. It’s easy to ignore what that guttural instinct says when we don’t consider ourselves to be the authority and sole governing body responsible for our lives.
My why with all of my musings, is to share words and considerations that I hope add to the collective of voices that stir up those deep-rooted truths that lie within us. Because, with all we’re up against, we need them: many and often.
I have seen glimpses of wonder when women remember who they are, what they want and what they’re capable of.
And while frankly, I think it's bollocks that we have to practice unlearning things that should never have been instilled in us in the first place, here we are, resilient, being awesome humans in spite of it all.
So that's it. That's my why with these #RemindHers. To hopefully bring words that are a tonic to you while demonstrating my own tiny steps of self-belief, as they're being taken in real time.
I’ve wanted to bring this new way of connecting with you for such a long time. I'll leave you then, with the words that have become somewhat of a mantra over on Frank+Feel: "Though I doubt, I do."
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